PERSONALITY 1.8

PERSONALITY 1.8

[STROKING & MOLDING 

OF PERSONALITY PATTERNS]

Stroking refers to “recognition of person’s presence by others” Everyone has need for recognition or attention since childhood to adulthood and onward. People should realise one’s presence in society. We always expect in our day to day life that they see us, say something, greet us. 

Strokes Are of Three Kinds, 

1. Positive 

2. Neutral 

3. Negative Positive 

Positive Stroke Makes Us Happy, Satisfied and Cheerful. Negative Stroke Makes Us Sad…And In Neutral Stroke, We Are Completely Ignored. 

a. Further Classification of Positive Strokes

b. Further Classification of Negative Strokes

note: 

• Conditional strokes are used to modify person’s behavior. 
• Parents or teachers use Positive Conditional Strokes when child does something good. 
• We use Negative Conditioning Strokes when performance is not as per the expectations. 
• Research says that the types of strokes we get or gather when they are sufficient enough, the same strokes are given into the environment around us. 
• So, efforts should be made to go for positive strokes so that good relations are maintained.

 MOLDING OF PERSONALITY PATTERNS

Molding Personality Patterns Means One’s Personality Should Not Be Rigid. It Should Be Flexible Enough So That It Can Grow and Get Mature. Molding Can Be Done Through the Process of Learning. This Learning Could be:

1.Outer Directed (CHILD TRAINING)
2.Self Initiating (IDENTIFICATION)

• Counsellor/Friends/Family Member/Psychologist etc. 
• Motivation for What is Required & Disapproval for What is Not Required. 
• 1. Authoritarian(Strict Rules & Regulations) 
• 2. Democratic (Discussions/Reasoning/Explanations) 
• 3. Permissive (Less Guidance and More Trial & Error)

• Self Initiated & Inner Directed. 
• Best Method of Learning. 
• Learning Through Imitation of Attitudes & Behaviour Patterns of Others. 
• Influences/Impressions of Role Models Playing Major Role. 
• Self Help Being the Most Effective Tool

note:

• One’s Physical Characteristics & Certain Psychological Characteristics are such Traits Which Cannot be Altered. 
• Personality is Dynamic and Not Static. 
• Molding of Personality takes place from Child Training at Home. 
• Afterwards He Molds Himself as per the Society & His Own Choice. 
• Childhood Memories Having Deep Impact 
• Molding Outer Personality = Grooming 
• Molding Internal Personality = Improving Behavior, Attitude, EQ etc. 
• Readiness Level (Willingness& Motivation Level) of the Learner Being Most Important.

"Personality is Fixed as Well As Subject to Change."

There Are Certain Characteristics of Personality Pattern which Are PERSISTENT or Fixed, While Some Characteristics CHANGE According to The Demand to Adjust to The Changing Environment. 

PERSISTENCE: 

• Persistence = Enduring/the State of continuing to exist for a long period of time
• “The Foundations of Personality Are Laid in the Early Years of Life.” - Freud
• Some Characteristics are Inborn & Inherited Which Never Change.
• Colour of Eyes/ IQ/ Skin etc.
• Because of: Heredity, Child Training, Social Environment, Repetition of Experience & Learning.

CHANGE: 

• Change = to Vary/Alter 
• Change May Be…Qualitative/Quantitative, Long Term/Short Term, Forced/Willingly, Favourable/Unfavourable, for Better/Worse
• Easily Possible in Childhood than in Adulthood
• Changes Come Gradually.
• Because of: Physical Changes, Environmental Changes, Changes in Roles/ Motivation/ Self Concept/ Role Model

 (to be continued...)